Couples work

From disconnection to embodied intimacy and safety

Most couples don’t struggle because they lack love. Intimacy isn’t something you achieve, it’s something you practice. They struggle because their nervous systems are out of sync. Unspoken tension. Repeating arguments. Loss of intimacy. Feeling unseen, unheard, or alone, even together. Our couples work offers a different entry point: not fixing problems through endless talking, but restoring safety, presence, and connection through the body.

What makes this work different

  • Both partners are held simultaneously

  • No one is “the problem”

  • Patterns are addressed in real time

  • Safety and boundaries come before intensity

  • Emotional truth and bodily signals are equally welcome

We support couples in learning how to stay present during difficulty — without shutting down, attacking or losing themselves.

We work with what is happening now, in your bodies, between you.

What this work is (and is not)

This is not traditional couples therapy. And it is not about blame, performance or “doing it right.” It is trauma-informed, embodied and relational work that helps you:

  • Understand how your nervous systems interact

  • Interrupt conflict cycles at their root

  • Rebuild trust, safety and intimacy - emotionally and physically

  • Meet each other again, beyond old stories

Who this work is for

This work is for couples who:

  • Love each other, but feel stuck, distant or polarized

  • Experience recurring conflict or emotional shutdown

  • Long for deeper intimacy, safety or aliveness

  • Are navigating life transitions (parenthood, illness, burnout, loss, growth)

  • Want to explore intimacy in a conscious, respectful and  embodied way

What we work with

  • Emotional distance or recurring conflict

  • Mismatched desire or intimacy struggles

  • Trust, safety and communication

  • Power dynamics and polarity

  • Repair after rupture

  • Deepening connection and aliveness

  • You do not need to be in crisis. You do need willingness, honesty and curiosity.

How we work with couples

Our approach integrates:

  • Somatic awareness & body-based regulation

  • Nervous system attunement between partners

  • Relational coaching & conscious communication

  • Systemic dynamics (patterns you didn’t choose but now live inside)

  • Optional tantric & intimacy practices (always clothed, consent-based and grounded)

Everything happens at a pace that respects safety and boundaries, individually and together.

What happens in a session

Each session is tailored, but may include:

  • Slowing down and arriving together

  • Mapping your conflict or disconnection pattern

  • Learning how your nervous systems trigger and protect

  • Guided practices to restore contact and safety

  • Exploring intimacy, touch or distance with consent

  • Integration and clear takeaways for daily life

We intervene in the moment, helping you feel the difference between reaction and connection.

Working with us as a couple

We work as a couple with couples. This matters.

It means:

  • We embody the work ourselves

  • We understand relational dynamics from the inside

  • We can hold polarity, tension and intimacy with clarity and groundedness

  • We model regulation, honesty and repair — not perfection

Clients often say this brings trust, realismand depth to the work.

Ways to work with us

Couple Trajectory (3 extented sessions)

  • Duration: ± 3 hours per session

  • Investment: €1.250

  • Payment in instalments is possible.

  • Location: Sint-Lievens-Houtem, Belgium

  • Language: NL/EN

Deep, focused work for couples who want real change. Time to slow down properly and to work beneath surface dynamics.

What couples often experience

  • Less escalation, more understanding

  • Feeling safer expressing needs and boundaries

  • Renewed intimacy and closeness

  • Greater emotional and physical presence

  • A sense of “we’re on the same side again”

Practicalities & boundaries

  • Sessions are confidential

  • Consent is central at all time

  • No sexual acts are part of the work

  • Touch is optional and always discussed beforehand

This is not about becoming a perfect couple. It’s about becoming more real, more regulated and more connected.

Ready to explore together?

If something in you recognizes this work - even if you’re unsure, hesitant or nervous, that’s often a good place to start.

We’ll explore together whether this is the right next step for you as a couple.